Brian wanted to expand his experience of sexuality after a recent, difficult divorce from his wife of 22 years. He was feeling apprehensive about entering the dating scene and was unsure about his ability to please a woman.
"Tara patiently taught me 'The ropes of sensate focus touching which helped me reconnect with the sensual part of myself that got lost during my marriage.' She helped me move through my feelings of sadness about the break up as I rediscovered my own buried feelings of sexuality. My self confidence has been boosted and I have just started dating. I feel that my life has been reborn--and I've been given a second chance at life!"
Brian, age 44, accountant.
West Los Angeles, CA
Fred has had a problem with premature ejaculation for the past 10 years. He tried distracting himself to last longer by thinking about anything that would deter him from rapid ejaculation. He was embarrassed and started withdrawing from sexual relations with his wife.
"I had a fast trigger since I was a teenager. I thought it was helpless---I did some experimenting but nothing worked. Then I met Tara--and I learned that I could prolong my arousal without mental gymnastics. The relaxed technique she taught me was totally different than what I thought it would be---and it really works! My intimate life is fantastic and I owe it all to her. I would recommend surrogacy to anyone who wants to boost their sex life and and overcome problems that have held them back from going for it!"
Fred, age 26, businessman.
Santa Barbara, CA
Richard was starting to notice changes in his ability to achieve and maintain a long-lasting erection. He had been using a sexual medication but was unhappy with its side-effects and was uncomfortable with the prospect of becoming dependent upon a drug to rev-up his libido.
"I was a skeptic...I really didn't think I could wean myself away from sexual drugs but my erections were a flop without it. With Tara's expertise, she guided me through the surrogacy process with compassion, humor, and wisdom. I learned techniques that will carry me a lifetime as I continue to pursue life with greater sexual enthusiasm. Tara became not only my guide, but my confidante and friend as well.
Richard, age 64, art professor
San Juan Capistrano, CA
When Jayson came to me, he had lost interest in his sex life with his wife. He was feeling bored and said that sex had started to feel like a "job." He wanted to recapture a sense of passion that would ignite his wife so they would both experience more fun and creative experimentation.
"I needed guidance to get my sex life back on track. I wanted sex to be fun again. And with Tara's loving lead, I learned how to really touch with passion and feel a higher level of pleasure for myself. I got away from the myth that I needed to perform which was always a pressure and, like magic, sex was exciting again. I learned alot of great new ideas to juice-up my sex life with my wife who is thrilled with her new loving husband."
Jayson, age 42, software programmer
Century City, CA
Before you gamble with pills, potions, penile injections or pumps!
I receive calls and E-mails everday from men who want to enrich the potential of their sexual experiences. Many men to seek my support to help them deal with two major concerns:
1. Premature ejaculation
2. Erectile problems.
They told me they thought nothing could be done and they'd have to resign themselves to frustrating sexual encounters or lifelong medical intervention. The good news is that both conditions can generally be well treated with specialized "sensate focus" touch experiences and sensory retraining which can restore the body to full vigor and improved functioning.
Myth: There is nothing that can be done about premature ejaculation.
Fact: Through consistent, gentle practice of effective retraining techniques, most individuals can learn to prolong peak levels of arousal for significantly longer periods of time than they've experienced in the past. This can produce dramatically expanded pleasure for themselves and their partners.
Myth: The only solution for erectile problems is sexual medications, injections or other substances.
Not so! While there are circumstance in which pharmaceuticals can be helpful (blocked arteries or nerve damage),very often patient persuasion can be as effective as medication! The body can only learn to restore its own essential sensuality if its responses are not masked by artificial substances.