Tara Livingston: Nationally Known
Sex and Relationship Expert

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People always ask me how, and why,  I became a surrogate.
My 25 years of work as a surrogate partner evolved from my own personal journey of discovery.  My parents were very open about sexuality so I was fortunate to benefit from sex-positive messages early on.  Both my mother and father talked to me about “where babies come from.”  As I approached my teen years, the “babies” conversation became replaced with more relevant conversations about sex prompted by my changing body, my new tingley sensations and all the unending questions I had.

Then came high school. And then there were boys. What an exciting new species!  My first boyfriend was my first “client.”  We were both very nervous about sex.  The first night we spent together was a classic story of two teenagers fumbling around.  He didn’t know how to unclasp my bra.  He wrestled with it until it almost tore! And as we tried to get into position for intercourse, inadvertently knocking heads, me jabbing him with my elbow and him unintentionally pulling my hair, he climaxed.  It was over before it began.

I had a great time.  I loved being close to him, touching his skin.  But I could tell he was disappointed and embarrassed.  He left, saddened.  I felt bad that he felt bad.  The next time we got together, he was feeling so much pressure to perform–to “do a good job”– that he couldn’t get an erection.  That didn’t bother me, but it hurt him.

So I decided, after consulting half a dozen books on sex, that I would be his teacher (even though, in practice, I didn’t know much more about sex than he did.  My knowledge was all academic)  And so we played.  We touched.  We had fun.  I made sure he knew that I adored him no matter what.  Within a month, he was like the last of the Red Hot Lovers.  He had developed terrific ejaculatory control and those erections were like giant Redwoods.

I knew I had a gift.  An unusual gift, some might say. But a precious, special gift that I wanted to share, the ability to reach out and touch a man’s heart, soothe his vulnerability and restore him to confidant masculinity.

I am a double-certified surrogate having been mentored by the two most prominent sex surrogate training organizations: The Center for Social and Sensory Learning and IPSA (International Professional Surrogates Association) In addition, I am a Certified Sex Educator awarded by the Institute for the Advanced Study of Human Sexuality as well as a Certified Personal Guidance Counselor. I have an undergraduate degree in Psychology from Ohio University.  I have advanced to graduate studies in Psychology and pursue continuing education at UCLA.